High Tech Options For Joint Parenting

No matter how well ex-spouses co-parent, there are always going to be issues that crop up, resulting in a potential for emotional exchanges in front of the children. These days, divorced parents have high tech options to assist with handling the details of joint parenting remotely.

 “People don’t want to talk to their exes because just the sound of their voice is irritating,” said Randy Kessler, chair of the American Bar Association’s Family Law Section and a matrimonial lawyer in Atlanta. “But they can e-mail. They can share an online calendar. They can use any number of resources on the Internet. There are even divorce apps.”

E-mail and texting alone have practically revolutionized postdivorce family relationships. “E-mail absolutely takes away the in-your-face aggravation and emotional side of joint custody,” said Lubov Stark, a divorce lawyer on the Upper East Side of Manhattan. “You just write, ‘I want to pick up Kimmy at 5, but I’m running late and will be there at 6.’ It’s the best thing ever.”

Ipad and calendar by Sean MacEntee at Flickr Creative Commons

Read the entire story by Pamela Paul at the NY Times.

Do you need help with a parenting plan?  The Lawyer Referral Service of the New Hampshire Bar Association can refer you to a  competent and insured family law attorney to assist you.  Call LRS today at 603-229-0002 or request a referral online.

 

 

 

 

It’s Getting Harder to Hide Money from Your Spouse

Veronica Dagher of the Wall Street Journal writes about the different ways that electronic discovery is assisting spouses and their divorce attorneys with finding hidden marital assets.

To get an idea of just how widespread financial mischief is, consider a couple of surveys. According to the National Endowment for Financial Education, 31% of U.S. adults who combined assets with a spouse or partner say they have been deceptive about money, and 58% of these adults say they hid cash from their partner or spouse.

The numbers also confirm that technology is playing a growing role in uncovering that double-dealing. In 2010, 81% of the members in the American Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers said they had seen an increase over the past five years in the use of evidence from social-networking sites. This year, 92% said that over the past three years, they have seen an increase in the number of cases using evidence taken from smartphones.

Part of the reason electronic discovery is booming is that more people are using technology to hide assets in the first place. They set up covert business deals using text messages or social networks, for instance, or figure out ways to create cash hoards online.

Read the entire story.

If you are considering divorce, the Lawyer Referral Service of the NH Bar Association can help by connecting you with a competent family law attorney who will work to protect your rights, while helping you navigate this often confusing experience.  Call LRS today at 603-229-0002 or request an online referral.

Is Divorce Mediation Right For You?

From Alison Patten, licensed attorney and mediator, who blogs at LemonadeDivorce.com.

Here’s what you need to know about mediation:

1. Many divorce cases are suitable for mediation (even when there is ongoing conflict; even when trust is damaged from an affair).

2. Mediation can involve just one mediator and be low-cost, or can involve outside experts (such as an accountant, a financial advisor, and consulting attorneys). You decide what you need and what you can afford.

3. Other than doing your divorce yourself, mediation is often the least expensive and fastest way to get divorced. It is the most “hands-on” and you control the process. Perhaps for this reason, couples rarely have “mediation regret” — even in cases where no agreement was reached.

So your real task, when considering mediation, is to check for any compelling reason NOT to mediate — the “red flags.” If any of these factors exist in your situation, mediation may not be right for you.

Read the full article from the Huffington Post.

List of Certified NH Marital Mediators.

After a successful mediation,  it is a good idea to have an attorney review your mediated agreement before filing it with the court.  The Lawyer Referral Service of the NH Bar Association can help with a referral to a competent attorney who provides unbundled legal services  to review your divorce agreement.  Call 603-229-0002 or request an online referral.

Report Bullying and Harassment of LGBT Students

Have you or someone you know experienced LGBT based bullying, harassment, or discrimination in school?

According to the Gay, Lesbian, and Straight Education Network (GLSEN), you are not alone:

Approximately 85% of high school students report being harassed in school because of their real or perceived sexual orientation and 64% of students report being harassed for being too masculine or too feminine. Even more troubling, only 18% of LGBT students report that their schools have policies which offer comprehensive protections.

Without  adequate statewide protections, what can members of school communities do to address these issues?

We can take action to ensure LGBT students claim their rights, create a record measuring anti-LGBT harassment, and use this record to advocate laws and policies that will address this epidemic plaguing our nation’s schools.

Empowering school communities with this information , and delivering reports to the U.S. Education Department is a critical first step in claiming our rights and getting the tools to create change and build safer schools. We need your help in this important educational and advocacy effort.

GLSEN recommends  that if you – or someone that you know – have experienced school-based bullying, harassment, or discrimination, please file a complaint with the Office for Civil Rights (OCR) at the U.S. Education Department today.  For more information on how to file a complaint, visit GLSEN’s website.

For information regarding New Hampshire’s anti-bullying law and other resources check out Bully Free New Hampshire.

For discrimination matters in areas of employment, public accommodations and the sale or rental of housing or commercial property, because of age, sex, sexual orientation, race, creed, color, marital status, familial status, physical or mental disability or national origin contact the NH Commission for Human Rights.

The Lawyer Referral Service of the New Hampshire Bar Association has a panel of competent attorneys experienced with handling discrimination matters.  Most discrimination claims are time-sensitive so call LRS today at 603-229-0002 or request an online referral.

Foster Children Often Targeted For Identity Theft

As reported by Gerry Smith, in the Huffington Post series Burdened Beginnings:

“experts say foster children are particularly vulnerable to identity theft because their personal information passes through many hands, increasing the chances their Social Security numbers will be used to commit fraud.”

“Now, lawmakers and child welfare advocates are looking at ways to protect the financial reputations of foster children amid growing concern over child identity theft. With increased frequency, thieves are hijacking children’s unblemished Social Security numbers to take out credit cards, car loans and mortgages, thereby destroying the credit histories of young adults.”

Read the full story

If you are a victim of identity theft, the Lawyer Referral Service of the NH Bar Association can refer you to competent attorneys who specifically handle identity theft issues.  Call LRS today at 603-229-0002 or request a referral online at https://www.newhampshirelawyerreferral.com/contact-us.

Domestic Violence Through the Eyes of a Child Video

“MONSTERS” portrays the alarming impact of domestic violence on families and children, as seen through the eyes of a young girl. Studies suggest that between 3.3 million and 10 million children witness some form of domestic violence each year. The video notes that girls who witness abuse are more likely to be abused later in life, and boys are twice as likely to abuse their own partners — “because that’s the world they know.” MONSTERS is produced and funded by the Verizon Foundation and supported by the National Domestic Violence Hotline.”

Read more about and view this short video at: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=367JvtoTm34&feature=youtu.be

If you or someone you know needs help, contact the NH Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-866-644-3574

If you need an attorney to assist you with a domestic violence situation, call LRS today for a referral to a competant attorney who has experience handling domestic violence issues.